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Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Being Real with God

Psalm 6:1 MSG

Please, God, no more yelling, no more trips to the woodshed.

I just love the way David is talking to God here in the passage. He had such a close relationship and was so confident in his relationship with God that he truly talked to Him like is real Daddy. David is just so real with God. He realizes that God knows him and there is nothing he can hide from Him, so why not just let Him know how he really feels.

God, Help me realize that I can talk to you like David did on a daily basis. You truly are so amazing and so caring that we can come to you with anything on our hearts and you will listen. Even if we don't turn our ear back to you, you still listen. You are so unselfish.

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Fear

Alright so I have to start by telling this story…
One evening right before Faith & Jaeden were going to go to bed, they were asked to walk Maisy our little dog. It was dark out and a little cool. They were out front on the porch when Angel and I heard this blood curdling scream. So we run out there to see what has happened. The kids are gone. What in the world is going on. We can still hear Faith screaming then Jaeden comes around the corner crying but still no sister. Then I see this big dog wagging his tail as if he were in big trouble. So we start putting the pieces together. Angel finally finds Faith out back and we bring then inside the house. Turns out while they were out there this big yellow Lab walks up to see what they were doing (he was so sweet). Faith (being affraid of big dogs) instead of running back in the door she just came from she desides to take a chance to run around the back side of the house to a locked door that she can not get through. Turns out that everything was fine but here's what kept bugging me. WHY DID YOU RUN AWAY FROM ME? I'm your father, the only one that can protect you from danger. Then as I was talking to my children it hit me… how many times do we do that with God? When something tries to come between you & God, how many times have you ran in the wrong direction. Did we run to alcohol? Did we run to a friend that has a negitive influence? Did we run to the arms of someone other than our husband or wife? Hopefully you get the point. We have done all something stupid. We panic. We go away from the very thing that can protect us from evil. Our heavenly Father is there for us always but in that split second for what ever reason I was not an option for Faith (yeah ouch that one hurt me too) to run to. I was not her first reaction. God wants to be the same for us. Anytime something good or bad is happening God should be our first reaction. He should be the first person we go to. He is our protector, oh creator, our friend that never leaves us even in the bad times. He is your heavenly Father and he wants to love you and protect you but you have to go to Him.

Monday, February 8, 2010

The Fire

I was thinking about hard times that we all go through. This post will be pretty brief but I thought it was pretty good.
I have learned that the Forestry Department will sometimes burn the forest on purpose. It's a controlled fire of coarse but the purpose in the fire is to burn out all of the under brush and weeds so the it doesn't take over everything else in the forest. Not only that, if a wild fire were to break out it would be very hard to control. How does this relate to me you ask, well I'm glad you asked. Sometimes in life we have to go through the "fire" or the hard times. If we look to God during these times we know that he has it under control. Why we go through it is another great question that I'm so glad you asked. The fire that we go through help to burn out all of the crap that we don't need in our life. The bad attitudes, the emotional baggage, the financial struggles helps us to focus on the right thing (God) and get rid of the crap. We can see, if we pay attention to what God is trying to show us and get rid of it, it won't turn into a wild fire taking over our lives.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Start New...

Live to please the Father!!!
Every moment is a new beginning. You can have forgiveness for the past. Don't let the new beginnings pass you by with the opportunity for you to change. Don't let other peoples judgement keep you in the past. Remember it's a new beginning. Every breathe you take is a new breathe and a new chance for life, so love it. Don't hold your breathe and miss your fresh start.

New phone, new blog...

So I got the new iPhone and just totally love this thing. I just found out that I can blog right from here. Isn't that the coolest. So maybe I will be able to blog more often. Like when those crazy thoughts start entering in my crazy head. Oh yeah, more to come.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Development of a Leader

I want to talk about some things we need to do as leaders, new and old. These are things that will help develop you, whether you are new to a leadership role or been at it a long time. I have a heart for leadership. I think so many times we (leaders) are forgotten about. We as leaders need to continue to develop ourselves but I think the issue is that sometimes we don’t know how. My mission, if you will, is to show you a few of these things. I will use some different things from books I have read and put them into a language that is easy to understand.
John C. Maxwell wrote in his book “21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” about the “Law of the Lid”. He talks about your potential as the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. For example if your leadership ability rates 8, then your effectiveness will never be great than 7. The greater the impact you want to make the greater your influence needs to be. When I first read this my thought was, great now I’ll never be more effective than I am now. Then it clicked, you have to raise your lid. What does that mean and how do you do that?
Your effectiveness is determined by not just your success or dedication but more importantly your leadership ability. In your current position you may be very dedicated to what you are doing but the way to make a difference is to grow your leadership ability. You need to focus on your leadership, not your dedication.
Let me start with the definition.
Leadership:
1) The traits, behaviors influence, interaction patterns, role relationship and occupation or salaried position.
2) Articulating vision, embodying values and creating environment for the thing that can be accomplished.
Wow, what powerful words. I love the second definition. It paints such a clear vision of what a leader should be. We can look to the book of Proverbs for some great insight on articulating vision.
Proverbs 29:18 - Where there is no vision (no redemptive revelation of God) the people will parish. Amplified Version
Habakkuk 2:2 – And the Lord answered me and said, write the vision and engrave it so plainly upon tablets that everyone who passes may be able to read it easily and quickly as he hastens by. Amplified Version
In Habakkuk when it is talking about writing the vision and engraving it, I believe that the purpose of having it written is twofold. One is to have it physically written and posted for everyone to see and serve as a reminder to you and everyone else of the purpose for the journey. One time when I was a store manager for a Fortune 500 company we were struggling in sales. The company was changing and there was some confusion as to who we were as a company. I brought our team together in a staff meeting and told them that we have to know where we are in the company, what our goals were. We have to know what our purpose was to our customers. Even though the company may have it own Mission and Values. We needed VISION. In that meeting we cast our own Vision for the store and how we were going to get there. After that I posted it as a reminder to our people. We also talked about it all the time. Everyone began to understand why we were there and what it was going to take to get there. The store really started to turn around. There was such a sense of team. Even when we would have corporate visits, all they would talk about was the sense of togetherness and how everyone was so calm and knew what they were doing.
The second is to have it written in your heart, is a great way to begin to lead your people. When you are out in the field, you might not have the literal posted version of the “vision sign” with you. The other thing, if it is in your heart it becomes second nature to you. You react to what you know. If you have studied the vision or purpose and understand it that is what will come out of the heart. If you pour water into a glass you not going to pour orange juice back out. What you fill your heart with is what will pour out of it. If you have understanding, confusion will not pour out. When an issue comes up, you know what your purpose is and how to handle it according to your goals. You have to know where you are going in order to get there and if people are following you, you have to have the directions.
This is vital to the growth of a leader whether in a spiritual or in a corporate setting it remains the same. You have to increase your knowledge and pray for wisdom. Here are a few things that you can do to help increase your knowledge:
First, find a mentor. Someone you can trust and someone that you can look up to. A person with the same morals and values that you have. Someone who is a difference maker. Someone who people are drawn to and want to follow. A person who is willing to teach and coach and hold you accountable.
The second is to study and read leadership books. If you have an iPod there are several things you can download for free. Study other leaders. Watch how they lead others and how effective they are. Learn from their mistakes. You will make plenty of your own, try to learn from the leader who has gone before you.
The third thing, is to set goals for yourself and have your mentor hold you accountable. Goals give you something to shoot for. It’s a challenge and you are pressing yourself. If your goal is to read one new leadership book a month, then set that goal and be held accountable to that. Another goal could be to become a better speaker, then find those opportunities to do so. You have to challenge yourself to do and be a better leader and person. Hopefully this will help you get started in the development of your leadership. Again I feel that it is important not only to tell you what is needed to help develop your leadership but give you some insight as to “how” to do it. Always remember, it is important as a leader not to keep what you have learned to yourself but continue to pass along the knowledge you learn to others that are around you. That, my friend, is what leaders do…we develop people.

As always pass this along to as many people that you know especially leaders in the Church…
Thank you,
Kristian

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Make it Count...

I tell you, the coolest stuff has been happening lately. When you open yourself up to God to let him work through you it is amazing what he can do. You have to be ready though. You don't know when it is coming for you...

I had someone ask me a question about two weeks ago at work and I can't get it out of my head. Don't get me wrong I think it was some sort of test or what ever but I had a young college guy out of the blue " Hey Kristian, is your family the most important thing to you"? Whoa Nelly, where did that come from? I do always talk about my family and how proud I am to be the husband and the father to but it just hit me right there... what kind of answer was he looking for? Then it hit me... I said, Jesse without get religious on you my family is the second most important thing to me. I then thought to myself "Hey good answer"...in a totally non back patting way or religious "hey look at me sorta way". He looked at me, nodded his head, said cool man and went on about his way. I then left the company I was working for and he came by on my last day to say good bye but I had already left. He then called me at home to tell me... He had never worked for anyone like me before. He said there is just something about you that makes you different. He went on to say that he didn't think there would ever be anyone else like me and that he loved my hair and some really weird stuff.... oh wait not really on the hair thing. The point is you don't no who you are effecting.

Second case:
An ex-employee called me the other night to tell me that her daddy was dying and that she would like for me to come over to the house and be with her. When she had worked for me we had serveral conversations about life and the choices we make. She has been though so much these past two years (I won't go into it but it hasn't been fun for her) and when she needed me she would send me a text or call me to just talk to her. She never asked for anything but this time it was different so I left right away. When I got there she had been crying not wanting to loose her daddy (I understand that one) and so I just talked to her and I listened to her and what she had to say. The really cool and humbling part of the whole thing was I was the only "non-family" member there and then out of nowhere she asks me to pray with the family. So she gathered the whole family in the room with her daddy and I prayed for the whole family. That was cool!!! One funny part was right after I said amen someone behind me said Kristian I didn't know you could do that (meaning pray)...I laughed. Then later that night maybe around say 12:30 in the morning her oldest brother came up to me and said "Kristian, I wanted to thank you for saying that prayer for the family." That prayer meant something to him and who knows who else that night.

There have been several other things but I say all that to say this ~ make life count. Live with a purpose. Something that I just told my friend the other night was it is now time to make a difference in other peoples lives. Don't be affraid of your past, use it. Don't be ashamed of where you came from, use it. Don't close your eyes to what you are going though, you will miss your opportunities. Don't be affraid to listen. Don't be affraid to talk. Don't let life pass you by without making a difference in someones life. Make it Count!!!

Love ya...Kristian

Please leave a comment and feel free to pass this on to everyone you know!
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Tuesday, August 19, 2008

So what is up with life?

I mean one day everything is just fine and dandy and the next thing everything has changed before you know and before you can have any input, any say so, try to put a stop to, or try to get a handle on this thing called life. It just makes it's own mind up for us and throws us into a tale spin. So there you find yourself trying to steer your life back into what now seems to be your life as you now have to deal with it...

What The Crap Does that Mean???

Sorry about that... For those of you who might not know, I lost my dad about 2 1/2 months ago. That sucks!!! I have never been through anything like that before in my life and there has been some junk. My dad was in a bad accident many years ago and has had some issues off and on since then but this. Come on. My dad was not feeling well (which was sorta common) so he went to the doctors on a Monday. Instead of them telling us "we need to readjust your meds again" or "you should try this kind of therapy" it was something completely different this time. Something none of us have ever heard. "Boys" (speaking to my brother and myself) not even looking at my dad, the doctor says "your dad has cancer and he has about 2 to 6 weeks to live." What??? What does that mean? Not the bad kind right! Oh, no it's the bad kind. It's called Leukemia. And a bad kind at that. OK so again, What??? The doctor continues to tell us all about it as nicely as he could but it just didn't make sense. My dad doesn't get cancer. He can't get cancer. He's freakin' 52 years old. No one asked me! OK, that's ok we'll beat it. Oh, yeah one other thing we have to tell you. Your dad is to weak to take chemo and if he did take it would kill him faster. Well the rest of that week just got worse... and again no one asked me! My dad didn't even make one week. He passed away that Saturday.

What Just Happened???

We are starting a new bible study series called "Live Like You Were Dying." Let me tell you this is going to be very hard for me. I now know what it is like to live like you are dying. I watched my dad do it right in front of me. He was so strong it was unbelievable. He made us laugh that whole week. He was a true hero to me. I seen him cry one time, I take that back he got tears in his eyes and he said what are you going to do, it is what it is and I know where I'm going. And the rest of that week he was so amazing. God had to be his strength. I pray for my family and friends sake I am as strong as he was. I know that is the only way I was able to keep anything together. My dad taught me so much when I was younger. You see he was not only my dad but he was my pastor for most of my life. He was not perfect and fell short of his own teachings sometimes but the message was there. He taught me what it was to be a man. He taught me to love a person for who they are, not what they are. He taught me that everyone needed Christ. Even the jerks. He taught me to love the stinky guy. He taught me, if you go for the biggest guy in the crowd then everyone else would follow. He taught me you have to show respect to get respect. He taught me never to give up. And in that last week of his life, he taught me what it means to face death. Dying is not the hard part, living is. You have to fight to live. Every day. You have to go after what ever it is you want. I think the scary part of dying is leaving your loved ones with the hurt of loosing someone. The fear of missing the people you love most.

And that my friend is why you have to make every moment count. Make a difference not only in your life but in the lives around you. I guess I have a new motto "No regrets." Tell the truth no matter what. If someone is lost, help them find their way. Love everyone. It's not about being selfish. Share. Life is short but eternity is forever. The past is just that. The present is right now. Plan for the future but don't get upset if it doesn't go as planned. God has something better. Pain does hurt but God is a pretty good pain reliever. Change, get over it, embrace it and make it happen. It's about making a difference! Change someones life and see what a blessing it is to your life. It's about growing. It's not all about you. This is some things that have been going though my head for some time now. Let me know what you think.

Love ya,
Kristian

Monday, April 28, 2008

REALationships...

Let’s talk about this thing called “Relationships”. From the words of a wise man “Why can’t we all just get along?” A group of us men were talking about this very issue this morning. If we could get to the point of walking in Jesus’ footsteps on a daily basis think how much further we would be in our own personal faith but think of where we would be as a; I hate to use the term Religion but as a body of believers in Christ. When we go throughout our day not showing the true Christ through our walk who is getting the glory? You are. Here is the kicker with this or the problem I have with this, we as believers are faithful to those who stroke us and tell us how we are appreciated and like recognition for the “works” that we have done or are doing. Again I say who is getting the glory for that? Not God! We are to be living our lives and in everything we do it is to be giving Him the glory. I have heard growing up that God is a jealous God. As I have gotten older I understand what that means. It’s not a bad thing, after all he created us. Why can’t we give him credit for our life as we go throughout our day? I can tell you this is something that God has been dealing with me on lately. My wife laughed at me the other day, a problem came up and it was something that I wanted God to know that I was concerned about and I said “Look Buddy, I need you to help me through this and only you can do it”. I am learning to just talk to God. Throughout the day I have learned and I am still learning to just talk to God. You may call your spouse, family, or a friend throughout the day just to talk. We should be able to do the same thing with God and honestly I feel that is all He is wanting from us. He created us to worship Him and seek Him and through this time in my life I am learning to do just that. It was hard to do at first, to just say to myself, instead of saying something under my breath that I shouldn’t be saying anyway and I have made a conscious effort to take that and talk to God about it. What I noticed has been such an uplifting experience. It has helped me to deal with the issues as they come up. I have been praying for wisdom daily, and feel that God has been doing just that. I have tried to have an open relationship with my God. I have included Him into areas of my life that I know He has been just waiting for me to invite Him to be a part of.
Now, let’s take that to the next step with the relationships of our friend and families. Are you perfect? Then why do we expect our relationship to be perfect with our friends and our families. Someone is going to make you mad. Someone is going to upset you or do something a way that you don’t like. You know what? That’s OK! Forgive, because let me tell you something you are going to do something to them to hurt them the same way. Maybe on purpose maybe not but how can we live our lives so wrapped up waiting for the next thing to bother or upset us. Let me tell you something else. That is a distraction from you keeping your eyes on God. Let me clear this up I am preaching to myself the whole time I am saying this stuff. Moving on… Here is the key to all of this, are you ready? It is called communication. Open communication. And sometimes just like with God you need to be ready to hear something that is going to hurt your feelings. No pain, no gain right? Personally I try to make people happy. I don’t like knowing that I have hurt someone but I know that it going to happen. I had a conversation with someone once. They were hurt by a church and they were ready to leave the church. I told them that they needed to talk to that person involved with that church to see what they might have meant by what was done or said. My friend said but I don’t want to be a part of something that is like this. This is not the way church is supposed to be. I asked my friend, what happens when they have a misunderstanding with their spouse? Are you ready to just give up on them walk away from the time and effort that you have put into that relationship? Of course not! You have made a commitment to that person and you talk to them about the issue to get it resolved. The issue comes back to the three “C’s”. 1. Commitment
2. Communication
3. Care
So I said, why would we be ready to just give up and walk away from the commitment you have made to God in serving this particular body? Sometimes we need to be reminded of that when it comes to serving our church or our job, that we have made a commitment to be there. If we don’t give it our all then we are letting God be seen in a light that He might not be proud of. Remember it’s not just your name that you represent, it is God’s! That has to be one of the toughest things to remember. We may be the only Christ that a person might see.
I think with these 3 things you should be able to have a “realationship”. So let’s recap for a minute. If you have open communication, if you have made a commitment, and if you continue to care for this relationship it will grow. Family, friend, or God all different areas of our relationships it can work.
Love you all, Kristian

Freedom...

So once again my children are bringing out the need for bloggin’. Here’s the thing, so I am outside with my son this morning and we are doing MAN stuff (keep in mind he is 4). So we are filling up the tires on his brand new “big boy” bike. We are mowing the lawn, sweeping and having a great time. He asked me if he could ride his bike. I said sure, but I need to give you some boundaries for your safety, your protection. He asked why and I told him because I don’t want anything to happen to you. So I told him where he could ride his bike to and from. That way I could keep an eye on him to make sure that if something were to happen I would be right there for him. He understood everything completely. He received his direction and was ready to go and have fun. Somewhere along the line he had a little malfunction, a brain fart…because I look up and he is way past the line that I set for him. I whistled at him and he pretended not to hear me at first, so I called for him again. Then it was like “oh, you were talking to me”. “What daddy” he said. I said boy, get back here so I can protect you. So slowly he made his way back. My question to myself was…why must he test his freedom? I gave him plenty of freedom with boundaries for his protection. He could do anything he wanted to do, play anything he wanted to, ride as fast as he wanted to, but it still wasn’t good enough. He wanted to move away from my covering of protection…can you see where I am going with this yet? As soon as that thought came to my mind, God said “What makes you any different than your son?” Now why did He have to go and say a thing like that? God was saying that he has given us the freedom to live our lives and the freedom to make our own choices but he has given us some guidelines to follow. Not to bind us or keep us from having fun but to protect us. He knows who (the enemy) is out there and what their intentions are for us. He gives us a free will to do whatever we want. Here’s the kicker; we will receive whatever consequences there are to receive. In many cases that is not always a bad thing. If my children make the right decision and follow my direction, they will actually have more freedom to do what they want because they can be trusted with what little I have given them. Again, God is the same way. God will only give us what we can handle. It’s what we do with it that determines if He can trust us with more. Here is the other thing, we have to learn to trust that God, period! He has given us these guidelines for us to learn to trust Him and as we do he will give us more freedom. The things that might bog you down in life…your job, your finances, family relationships…anything that may be bogging you down, God has given it to you for a reason. God is there with you. And as you learn that there is freedom in Him those things seem to disappear. When you are not following God, you are actually being held captive by those things that are bogging you down. You may think that in not following Christ there is freedom, but you are mistaken. Satan uses that deception to keep you bound to the very things that should offer you freedom. Now, what are you going to do with your freedom? Are you going to go away from your boundaries or are you going to choose to follow what Daddy (Father God) has given you? God wants you to trust Him completely in the Freedom that He has given you.
Love you all, Kristian